Kappa21 , when i connect my phone to my laptop via infra-red (i don't have a usb cable), i'll be able to access my phone through My Computer.
When i double click on it, i'll be shown a directory with my phone that appears as an icon.
Next, depending on where you want to download/upload things, for my case i choose the memory card drive.
Now i'll be able to see what is in the memory card, for instance i want to download photos to my computer, i choose Images.
Finally, here is where all the pictures taken by my phone are stored. You just need to copy and paste these files to a new location to your computer or vice versa. It works the same as a normal windows directory.
Hope this helps.